No really, I'm not being given away!!

Traditionally, the Bride was quite literally "given" to the groom in marriage.  At the beginning of the ceremony the Celebrant would ask "who gives this woman to be married to this man?" and the father of the bride would answer "I do".  This reflected the status of women as being the property or under the authority of the father and then passed on to be the property/authority of her new husband.  Fortunately, the days of being "given" in marriage are long, long gone!

The tradition of the bride coming down the aisle with one or both parents, a child, sibling or a close friend or relative is still, however, alive and well.  Alternatively, both partners might arrive with a parent or someone close to them.  So, the tradition remains but the meaning has changed from one of "gifting" to one of "support and love".

In my Guide for Couples, I provide a range of options that they might select from or that might give them some thoughts of other ways in which they might like to arrive and/or celebrate the support of family.  This might include family pledging their love and support, giving their blessing or committing to celebrating with the couple in times of joy and support in times of hardship.  In recent times couples have selected a range or different formats from the traditional, both parents, a sibling, coming together and, not forgetting the very special moment when Orlando escorted his Mum Kristie down the aisle on a wintery day.  His pride and excitement were so memorable.

But, if this isn't for you and you want to arrive together or by yourself, that's absolutely fine too.  This first moment will set the scene for your wedding.  It is a special moment so make the most of it in whatever way feels right for you both.

Kristie and her gorgeous son Orlando, July 6th, 2015. Photo by Sunshine Weddings